Incongruity

To find the balance between what I think and what I feel is not always easy, even less if these two aspects contradict themselves because it happens that each one points a different direction they cause internal conflicts that if we do not know how to control it will damage us.

When our emotions are neutral we can think almost in a totally rational way and to make decisions based on what we think it is more logical and coherent. So that, we can establish behavior patterns and ways of reaction for determinate situations.

It seems easy to do it because there are not feelings that try to influence or alter this that we have thought about and we consider that our conviction about the concrete aspect is so strong that in case it will happen the reason will win the game to the emotion.

But how surprising is to discover the huge influence that the feelings can put on any idea that in absence of those, we considered absolute and ideal. Even so, they are imposed on our reasons making even us to forget about the principles we had established.

So, we try to justify ourselves with reasons and excuses that far from calm down and endear the confronted differences, what we do is to confuse and to trick to our mind that now does not know which position wants to take.

Maybe this contradiction comes from the limited learning and the lack of practice with the management of our emotions and also because of the wrong idea about imitate the common and close models that are shown as normal.

The truth is that there are emotions that cloud the reasons causing an incongruity between what our feelings dictate and our thoughts told us. So that, it is necessary to reflect on this that without influential palpitations we could think once.